Stop Trying to Control the Uncontrollable

Summary: “One of the main features of a well-trained mind is separating new matters as they arise into those you can control and those you can’t control.”

Beginning today, if you do not already do so, seriously challenge your concerns about matters that you cannot control. Take a moment at the beginning of each day, or any time you think it is appropriate, and ask, “Is this issue I am working on, or concerned about, or ranting about, or raving about, or worrying excessively about, something I can control in any way?” If your answer is yes, decide what to do next and do that? If not, accept it, deal with it the best you can, and then move on to something else.

Pay special attention to the factors you can control with important opportunities, risky situations, and important relationships. Stay intensely focused on those things you can control and do not waste time and energy on uncontrollable factors.

Time, energy and money are finite resources. If you use them for one thing, they are not available for another thing. It’s as simple as that. Therefore, time, energy and money used for things you cannot control are no longer available for things you can control.

Here’s a suggestion for getting started with this idea. Make a list of three things:

  1. Things I wish were different about me.
  2. Things I wish were different about others.
  3. Things I wish were different about the world.

Now carefully divide this list into things you can and cannot control. Then see how much time, energy and money you can free up by accepting the latter, so you can focus on the former.

Having a well-trained mind that focuses mainly on things you can control is a good way to joyfully participate in life.

Joyfully participate in life today…Chris

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